So how is everyone doing? I know we’ve had a few days to digest the inauguration so you could either be elated or deflated. I could go on a tirade about the results but I won’t. It’s fruitless and won’t change a damn thing. Instead, I’ve spent the last three months compiling a personal list for myself on how to deal with the next four years that I wanted to share.
1. When something brings you joy, immerse yourself in it
I listened to the song “Angels” by Chance the Rapper for about four weeks straight. It was maybe the ONLY thing that brought me peace after the election results were announced a couple months ago. From an outside perspective, this might have seemed slightly psychotic but for me, it was a lifeline. I won’t apologize for my version of hope and you shouldn’t either. It may be a song, book, food, hobbies, etc., if you feel joy, bathe in it. Douse yourself in that version of joy.
2. Gauge your privilege and use it for good
Look, NO ONE who is privileged wants to talk about their privilege. Even as I type these words, I am cringing. I was raised in an upper middle class white suburb so my privilege is through the roof and I fully recognize that. Have I had a lot of a shit things happen to me as a woman? You better believe it. But I also recognize that my problems are small compared to what my friends have gone through.
With that being said, I’ve been constantly trying to figure out ways to use my privilege to help. If you feel comfortable with where you’re at, you better be helping people who don’t. Get a dialogue going with your friends who have bigger barriers than you to better understand what you can do to help. Even if their answer is nothing at all, at least you let them know you’re there.
Find organizations that are at risk under Ivanka’s dad’s term (trust me, THERE ARE A LOT) and dedicate your time and money to it. Anytime you get mad or sad, book some volunteer hours.
4. Stop using the word “normalize”
Before you jump down my throat, hear me out: that word is a trigger word for Trumpets. It’s an automatic tune out button for them. Instead, spread that exact message without using that word. Think of it this way: it’s like when you hear the words dishonest media, fake news, sad, huge, great, etc.
5. Don’t fight fire with fire — fight fire with water
Icy, cold, spraying at 100 mph water. Don’t poke fun at anyone, stop calling people racist, and stop wallowing. Instead, use logic to call out the erroneous missteps the White House makes over the next four years. Assign blame to the people who deserve it most, not the people who got fooled. Never stop the discourse but rethink how you’re approaching it.
6. Don’t be afraid to speak up, but know when to shut up
If you see something, say something. Simple enough. Keep posting about issues that concern you, but stop engaging in pointless arguments on the internet unless you actually think the person you’re speaking to can be changed. (Hint: 99% of people who are trolling the internet won’t be changed.) The more you argue fruitlessly, the more you give wind to any “whiny liberal” nonsense the right is spewing.
7. Make sure you call out your friends (THIS WILL BE HARD)
Some of the friends we typically agree with can be wrong too. If they are posting news from “fake” sites or links that has been unverified (and no, I don’t mean CNN which is not fake news and I’ll stand by that), be sure to remind them that it may not be accurate. You can be gentle in how you approach this but we need to make sure we’re not making the same mistakes we call the right out on. Obviously exercise caution with how you approach this.
I.E. If someone posted the Buzzfeed article with “LOL Golden Showers” vs posting the Buzzfeed article with “OMG HOW IS THIS GUY NOT IN JAIL,” clearly, there are two different messages here. Only call out the one that seems to genuinely believe the information being spread.
8. Support your local girl gang
Surround yourself with strong women and make sure you lift your sisters up. Stop competing and start collaborating. There are quite a few things that we have to be scared about under this regime so now’s the time to work together. Speaking of which, you can buy the below pin on Etsy!
9. Get Involved
Don’t be afraid of local politics, rallies, calling your senator, writing your congress person, etc. Put yourself into the conversation if you want to see real change. The Women’s March is also providing 10 easy actions you can do in 100 days which you can find here.
10. Laughter really is the best medicine
This is by no means a laughing matter, but don’t underestimate the power of laughing about other things in your life. Jokes and laughter can remind you of the good things that life has to offer.
This too shall pass.
11. If all else fails, play a drinking game
Sip anytime you hear the words: dishonest media, alternative facts, Radical Islamic Terrorism, MAGA, fake news, I’ve never met VladPut but I respect him, great, fantastic, sad, lies, rigged, wall, gold, Paul Ryan, anytime he repeats a phrase in a speech for emphasis, you’ll see, wonderful, bigly, tweet, twitter, oil, China, Russia, Wikileaks, Tax Returns, Audit, Meixco, etc… Feel free to add to this list at any time.